Female Pride: Now in Male Pride Flavor

I attended two Pride-related events in my town recently. One was the Pride parade and festival. The other was an allegedly female-centric Pride-related music and entertainment event.

I have grown used to the fact that the general Pride events have become more and more male-centric over the years. This was a complaint of lesbians decades before the recent spate of transgender activism made it leaps and bounds worse. The fact is, males are heard, represented and attended to much more than females are, in activist and special-interest communities as much as in the world at large. LGB events have always been male events that women were welcome to show up at, never equal-time events, and certainly never the other way around. Lesbians are, and always were, the redheaded stepchildren of the gay rights movement.

Thus, the Pride parade and festival was over-represented by males. Females who appeared to love females stood at maybe 25%, by my estimate, while drag queens, males who dress in women’s clothes, straight people and other gay men made up the difference, in more or less decreasing order of prevalence.

In the straight group are the “queers,” those people whose claim to alternative sexuality lies in their strange hair color, their custom-designed “gender” configuration, and/or the fact that they once fantasized about a mixed-sex threesome. “My partner is coming, but they can’t make it til later,” said one straight woman who didn’t want to sound straight. As an online acquaintance said recently, “When did the movement stop being about civil rights and start being about what parties you’re invited to?” I don’t know that I’ve ever heard it said any more articulately than that.

In this atmosphere, I actually felt conspicuous holding my girlfriend’s hand, like some sort of minority within a minority community. Even in the midst of the current “queer” explosion, the younger lesbians don’t seem to be holding hands as often these days, as if they have a reputation for “inclusivity” to uphold that precludes showing affection to their own partners.

But it was the “female-centric” Pride event that really disappointed. Here, about 50% percent of participants were females who love females–still a bit low, for a female event–but you wouldn’t know that it was even that high by the entertainment, which was largely provided by female impersonators. That includes both the kind who say they’re women and the kind who don’t, a distinction which, we will see, simply doesn’t matter to lesbians in any tangible way.

A drag queen emceed the show. First up was a lengthy and dull skit about marriage equality in which, for whatever reason, male actors played the women. It was classic drag-show fare, flamboyant and overwrought with a heavy-handed capitulation to the patriarchal institution of marriage. The kind of thing that gay men like.

Next was a male person in a dress, presumably transgender, reading bad poetry.  What happened at this point is truly remarkable. The crowd, it would seem, wasn’t paying enough attention. Note that this was a walking around, socializing, drinking, dancing event, not a sit-in-chairs-and-face-a-stage event. Nonetheless, the lack of attention irked the organizer, who temporarily took the mic and straight-up berated the crowd. “This is the one night that’s by us and for us!” she screamed, apparently unfamiliar with the concept of irony. “It’s important that we pay attention!!” she continued.

But wasn’t it her job, as coordinator, to hold the attention of her audience, to give them what they wanted? Did it not occur to her that there might be a reason why the women present were bored by the physicality and perspective of males, who after all, also dominate all the other events that aren’t “for us”?

And finally, the most ill-advised act of all. An unfortunate-looking trans-identified male in a sparkly skirt with thinning hair, broad shoulders and narrow hips sashayed slowly onto the stage to the tune of some stale ballad. He then yawned, climbed onto a bed onstage, and removed his top to reveal a boob job with pasties–because women go to bed in pasties, amirite–before lying, arching his back, pulling the sheets up and simulating what porn has told him female masturbation looks like.

The whole act was badly conceived and poorly acted in addition to being a clear turn-off to its intended audience.

Let’s recap: After a number of performances by gay men, a straight male exhibitionist pretended to masturbate in front of a room full of lesbians.

That’s the state of gay rights today. That’s the state of feminism.

And should some women happen to find this type of thing masculine and lame–like the hundreds in the club that night who apparently did–creating their own event that better represents their interests is no longer an option. Because those events will be attacked and sabotaged for not catering instead to other people’s interests.

Women, take it. And pretend to like it.

Isn’t that always the message.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sadism by Any Other Name

Marquis de Sade is the eighteenth-century author for whom the term “sadism” is named. Though the word has become synonymous with a kink movement often described as “empowering,” “sex-positive,” and “consensual,” there was nothing sexy about Marquis de Sade’s unreadable prose, which described in detail the excruciating rape and torture of women, young boys and girls, and infants. In his books, tales of very much not-consensual sexual assaults are outnumbered by even more gruesome accounts of burning people alive, cutting off limbs, ripping open bellies and pulling out entrails (often while “libertines” masturbate to the spectacle).

In 1785, he wrote a story in which eight virgin boys, recruited “for their beauty,” are cross-dressed and anally raped. In the same story, their torturer cuts out the intestines of a boy and a girl, swaps them, stitches the children back up, and watches them die.

Meanwhile, in 2018, the world tunes into a reality TV show featuring a boy who, at the age of four, unsnapped his onesie and arranged it in a way we’re to understand “looked like a dress.” Thus, the adults in his life, overcoming any fleeting skepticism they might have felt about the motivations of toddlers who fiddle with their clothing, took it as a sign of an undeniable and strong interest in the trappings of femininity that could only dictate a permanent redirection of the course of his life.

He was thus set on a path of lifelong cross-dressing, medication, and public social pressure that would keep him virginal, fashionable, pretty, and open to the idea of having his genitals removed and parts of his stomach excised to form a different, more fuckable set of genitals in its place.

Marquis de Sade’s writing became known in the context of its appalling affront to morality. The author would no doubt literally get off on how things have changed (and would love to get his hands on Jazz, too, I suspect).

And although the “allies” swallowing the new paradigm are less sadists, and more confused by the capitalist propaganda machine that materially benefits from pushing fashion, pharmaceuticals and plastic surgery onto an entirely new and exploitable demographic, the culture in which this shift occurs is the same: a patriarchy that values youth and virginity; and a porn-saturated sexual landscape that loves gender norms and privileges erection as the gold standard of sexuality, even, and especially, at the cost of the pleasure of the submissives that it chooses and trains for its pillaging.

The Trans Ego: Why Allies are Becoming TERFs

There is nothing wrong with admitting you are not the opposite sex. there is nothing wrong with having dysphoria and admitting that you are trans. There is nothing wrong with not fitting in with your natal sex. You can be something unique. But you decided that wasn’t enough to fight for. It wasn’t enough to fight for your own unique being.

You said no. I don’t want trans spaces, I want yours. I want your vagina, your female spaces, I want you to stop using your words, I want you to stop talking about your body, I want to destroy you in your sports, take your places in public offices, schools, and organizations. I WANT YOUR WOMANHOOD. And you expected me to comply. To hand it over. And you’ve convinced many to do just that.

But women talk in the shadows about the truth.

The more you fight to destroy women’s right to woman, the more enemies you create.

You’ve united women of color, white women, men, conservatives, liberals, moderates, lesbians, gay men, even de-transitioned trans people against you.

Well done.

From https://medium.com/@oliviabroustra/the-trans-ego-why-allies-are-becoming-terfs-998e127ae896

And because there’s nothing more dangerous than allowing women to express opinions, it has now been removed and can be found at the following links instead:

https://medium.com/@nomoretransviolence/the-trans-ego-why-allies-are-becoming-terfs-c9740b2afa80

https://web.archive.org/web/20180529061100/https://medium.com/@oliviabroustra/the-trans-ego-why-allies-are-becoming-terfs-998e127ae896

 

Dogma

“First, they are always changing their creed and expanding their demands: yesterday’s mandatory vocabulary will become tomorrow’s epithets; yesterday’s enlightenment will be tomorrow’s benighted bigotry; yesterday’s requirements of Science and Medicine and Justice are tomorrow’s suicide-inducing oppression.

Second, even as their own position shifts, the activists are absolutely closed off to contrary evidence: they call for the censure of honest researchers; they refuse to give any consideration to competing interests of privacy or safety; they reject alternative therapies that may be favored by parents or doctors.

Third, because the transgender movement is so close-minded, it inclines toward coercion.

All of this suggests a posture of defensiveness—that activists know their claims can’t stand up to scrutiny. The movement has to keep patching and shoring up its own beliefs, policing the faithful, coercing the heretics and punishing apostates, because as soon as its furious efforts flag for a moment or someone successfully stands up to it, the whole charade is exposed. That’s what happens when your dogmas are so contrary to obvious, basic, everyday truths. “

Ryan T. Anderson, When Harry Became Sally

Queer Theory Glossary

In case you’ve had trouble keeping up with the spate of new queer theory terms, here’s a handy glossary for your reference.

Queer – A straight person with an interesting haircut.

Non-binary/genderqueer – A chubby young female, typically 16-28, who has dyed her hair blue. Is probably what was once called a lesbian, but she doesn’t like that word.

Lesbian – A man in his 40’s who works in IT and started wearing his wife’s panties last year.

Transgender – A person whose aversion to society’s made-up gender stereotypes should be taken way more seriously than everyone else’s aversion to society’s made-up gender stereotypes.

Pansexual – Someone who likes men who dress in masculine clothes and men who dress in feminine clothes.

TERF – A mature woman who goes about her business without thinking about men enough. The party that should be held responsible when a redneck man beats up a male prostitute.

Cis – Someone who daydreams wistfully about putting on appropriate clothing and showing their genitals to the doctor.

Sexual orientation – Bigotry in the form of having opinions about whose genitals you like to touch.

Intersectionality – Remembering to include a variety of different types of men in your feminism.

Transmisogyny – When straight white men can’t get other people to say the things they want them to say, and it feels worse than any form of oppression anyone else on the planet has ever experienced.

Ze/Hir – Pronouns you can request to disrupt college classes when you haven’t done the assigned work.

Gay – A passé identity that isn’t cool enough anymore and needs rebranding.

Asexual – A person who feels left out.

Intersex – Probably all of us. I mean, you’ve never had a chromosome test, have you. HAVE YOU?

 
Edit: A sincere thank you to whoever made a snazzy graphic of this and gave me credit. Nicely done.
 

 

 

 

Expand What it Means to Be a Man

“Shootings, whether they’re in Parkland, Orlando, Las Vegas or Sutherland Springs, all tend have one thing in common. It’s that they’re almost always perpetrated by men.

Female mass killers are ‘so rare that it just hasn’t been studied.’

The problem is that some men do not have the coping skills to deal with the fact that everyone does not think that they are special.

Teach young men that not getting exactly what they want is fine. Teach that healing, not killing, is something powerful you can do as a man. Teach your sons to be gentle as they go through life.

– Jennifer Wright – Men Are Responsible for Mass Shootings: How Toxic Masculinity is Killing Us

“Last week, 17 people, most of them teenagers, were shot dead at a Florida school [that] now joins the ranks of Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech, Columbine and too many other sites of American carnage. What do these shootings have in common? Girls aren’t pulling the triggers. It’s boys. It’s almost always boys.

We don’t have a model of masculinity that allows for fear or grief or tenderness or the day-to-day sadness that sometimes overtakes us all.

There has to be a way to expand what it means to be a man.”

– Michael Ian Black – The Boys Are Not All Right

Teach boys they can be gentle. Expand what it means to be a man. What a novel idea.

But we don’t even try to do that anymore, do we? We just take all the men who step outside the mold and call them women. Just like your homophobic grandpa did.