Expand What it Means to Be a Man

“Shootings, whether they’re in Parkland, Orlando, Las Vegas or Sutherland Springs, all tend have one thing in common. It’s that they’re almost always perpetrated by men.

Female mass killers are ‘so rare that it just hasn’t been studied.’

The problem is that some men do not have the coping skills to deal with the fact that everyone does not think that they are special.

Teach young men that not getting exactly what they want is fine. Teach that healing, not killing, is something powerful you can do as a man. Teach your sons to be gentle as they go through life.

– Jennifer Wright – Men Are Responsible for Mass Shootings: How Toxic Masculinity is Killing Us

“Last week, 17 people, most of them teenagers, were shot dead at a Florida school [that] now joins the ranks of Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech, Columbine and too many other sites of American carnage. What do these shootings have in common? Girls aren’t pulling the triggers. It’s boys. It’s almost always boys.

We don’t have a model of masculinity that allows for fear or grief or tenderness or the day-to-day sadness that sometimes overtakes us all.

There has to be a way to expand what it means to be a man.”

– Michael Ian Black – The Boys Are Not All Right

Teach boys they can be gentle. Expand what it means to be a man. What a novel idea.

But we don’t even try to do that anymore, do we? We just take all the men who step outside the mold and call them women. Just like your homophobic grandpa did.

2 thoughts on “Expand What it Means to Be a Man

  1. “Teach boys they can be gentle. Expand what it means to be a man. What a novel idea.

    But we don’t even try to do that anymore, do we? We just take all the men who step outside the mold and call them women. Just like your homophobic grandpa did.”

    If there were a Nobel prize for a paragraph, this would win it. I read Ian Black’s piece, and have been struggling to respond. You did, brilliantly, and I thank you.

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  2. Look up the Cave of Adullam…
    And have hope that somewhere, someone is trying to make a real difference.

    Because just like Emma Watson said at the UN, Feminism should be about equality. That means that boys can be soft, just like girls can be strong.

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