- A well-off looking straight white dude — not even dressed in women’s clothing, not that I think wearing women’s clothing is a cause or sign of womanhood — carrying a sign that said “Sex work is work.”
- A MtF, who has never owned female genitalia nor been grabbed in the crotch, carrying a sign about the possibility of someone grabbing his “pussy”
- A speaker’s blurb about Title IX and its founders’ interest in providing safe spaces and sports opportunities for girls. No mention of the fact that those founders didn’t include the clause “and some males with certain interior states of mind.”
- A transman, you know, a person who socially and medically and philosophically disavowed where she came from, saying that we must always be true to where we’ve come from.
- Speakers demanding that we dismantle the patriarchy! Except of course when the patriarchy comes in the form of harmful sex stereotypes being promoted by men who are appropriating womanhood.
- Many signs featuring the words “vulva,” “pussy,” “ovaries,” and “uterus,” some signs featuring drawings of uteruses, some signs linking “women” to “reproductive rights” and at least one woman with a uterus painted on her face. Thank you, sisters, for not bowing to the pressure to pretend that female genitalia/sex organs don’t exist and/or aren’t female and/or aren’t related to women’s rights and/or should remain unspeakable.
- Tons of women. A huge turnout. And tons of women I know. Yay!
“I’m a feminist. I’ve been a female for a long time now. It’d be stupid not to be on my own side.” – Maya Angelou
Females are an oppressed class, and males are an oppressor class. Bigotry flows from the oppressor class to the oppressed class. It is nonsense to speak of “reverse racism” flowing from black folks to white folks, and it’s equally nonsense to accuse females of “transphobia” against people born male.
It’s impossible for an individual to be an oppressor based upon the same axis by which she is oppressed. To suggest so is a great misunderstanding of class analysis and oppression. An axis has only two poles.
Females and males are not equals or peers, and females are certainly not oppressors of males, however the males may identify. If this were so, oppression would be a meaningless concept, a mere collage of unpleasant causes and effects that may or may not happen to any particular individual based upon his behavior and who he’s hanging out with at the time. This is not how oppression works — oppression is systematic, not situational. Black people don’t sometimes oppress white people, either.
Males with gender dysphoria feel oppressed, harassed, and unhappy, for a variety of reasons internal and external to themselves. But not receiving every concession they wish to receive from females is not oppression.
If females do not redefine our class to include such males, if we do not adjust our language and truth for them, if we give them side-eye when they enter our restrooms and if we fail to cheerfully drop our pants next to them, this is not because females are oppressing such males. This is because males have always oppressed females. We are not required to give up the fight for our rights because you have come along with allegedly more important rights. We are not required to redefine males and females so that those who wish to opt out of criticism for sexism or class oppression may do so at will.
This has always been about us, not about you.
Among my rights are these:
- As a member of the female class, I have a right to criticize and reject the shenanigans of my oppressors. This includes when they believe their actions “don’t count” or are beyond reproach; it includes when they believe they are different from other oppressors or are not behaving in an oppressive way. News flash: the oppressor class has never been very good at self-regulating their oppressive behavior. Rights have always had to be wrangled out of their reluctant grasp.
- I do not have to redefine my class to include its oppressors.
- I am free to reject definitions of my class that are based on harmful stereotypes.
- I am free to be offended by parodies and misrepresentations of my sex.
- I am free to reject the voices of males who purport to speak for my class.
- I do not have to “not all men” any more than black people have to “all lives matter.”
- I can criticize an ideology that holds that members of my class can be manufactured via drugs, surgery, clothing, or self-identification.
- I can criticize an ideology that suggests that the disadvantages women face on the basis of our unchosen biology is identical to the disadvantages our oppressors face on the basis of their admittedly unpopular but freely-chosen presentation.
- I can criticize an ideology that calls me a bigot if I do not allow my privacy boundaries to be violated by males simply because they petition to violate them.
- I can criticize an ideology that defines the well-known male-on-female crimes of exhibitionism and voyeurism (of which I’ve been a victim multiple times) out of existence.
- I can criticize an ideology that seeks to take protections of title IX away from the females it was designed to protect and transfer them to the males it was designed to protect us from.
I will not cheerfully relinquish my rights to my oppressors, however harassed and “different” some of them may feel.
My interest in my rights does not constitute oppression of those who seek to violate them.
It is unprecedented in civil rights movements that one group seeks to displace the gains and protections of another group rather than seek solutions that protect the rights of both parties. That it is happening only bolsters the case that oppressors cannot be trusted with self-regulation.
“Next time look carefully to see if she has any large moles about her body, these may in fact be ‘teats’, from which TERFs are known to suckle one another as they reinforce their cisprivilege.”
“Look in her fridge, have either the milk, cheese or butter spoiled before their expiration date?”
“I know the female Starbucks barista was of legal age to date… I’m tired of hearing the word ‘creep’ as any black person or gay person is tired of hearing certain words. I have a whole webpage dedicated to age gap love,” said the man who was banned from Starbucks after hitting on the teen barista.
In a world where oppressors can claim to be the oppressed, individuality is paramount over structural realities, and axes of oppression are replaced by gyroscopes of grievances, this was really quite inevitable.
“A detransitioned woman I know… was giving her opinion that there was a necessity for female-only space… Two transwomen gave her a detailed description of how they would rape her, saying things like testosterone had ruined her pussy and so they would rape her in her mouth and her ass.” Then they sent her photos of their penises and buttholes.
“If you call yourself a feminist and you use the word, I think you need to really evaluate what you’re participating in.”