I am humbled by Judith Bell’s incredible way with words in this piece and the one that preceded it. Again, I wish every trans woman would read the series, which will apparently have four installments.
“Many aspects of male socialization are terrible burdens… Male socialization can be traumatic, or even scarring.”
“Male socialization does not guarantee success. There are many disenfranchised males in the world who are increasingly bitter about not receiving the boon that their maleness promised them… But just because you experienced disenfranchisement and disappointment does not mean that you don’t have male privilege. In fact, your feelings of not ‘getting what you were promised’ is a symptom of your male privilege.”
“In contrast, female socialization makes no promises. It does not encourage you to try for your dreams. It stunts, it crushes, it warps you, because in society’s eyes, in men’s eyes, you cannot have dreams because you are the dream.”
“You have chosen your alliance with femininity. The opportunity costs you experience because of that are not systematic female oppression.”
“That choice was not made for you by your parents and your doctor, as intersex people experience.
That choice was not made for you by society, as female people experience.
You made that choice by yourself. A real, uncoerced choice.
Male privilege gave you that choice.”