Standard Posted by Trans widow Posted on August 26, 2016 Posted under General Comments 21 Comments “Tightness, Dilation, Scar Tissue, Erectile Tissue, Peeing, Infection” Prepare to be depressed. Who needs gender-critical people calling sexual reassignment surgery troubling when this person is doing our work for us? Advertisements Share this:TwitterFacebookGoogleLike this:Like Loading... SRS Post navigation ← Transwomen are Not Females by Nevlynnn I Don’t Share Your Religion, and I Don’t Have To → 21 thoughts on ““Tightness, Dilation, Scar Tissue, Erectile Tissue, Peeing, Infection”” “It’s been a few years, and it still bleeds occasionally.” LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Reblogged this on stop trans chauvinism. LikeLike Reply I remember some guy commenting on Gender Trender some years back that he’d had SRS and was distressed because he didn’t like the way his surgically altered genitalia smelled. I wondered: did they warn you about that? What did they warn you about, what did they omit? LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Sounds like a nightmare. Maybe instead of constantly fantasizing about having a vulva and vagina he should have worked on accepting the genitals he did have? Seeing as there’s no way he can get what he actually wants. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply You can see how a person’s fantasy can take over his life. He keeps repeating that he loves it, he’s just sad that the surgery has all these alarming side effects. One doesn’t get the sense from the piece that he regrets his decision. But one does get the sense that there are a lot of post-op guys out there putting a brave face on a dismal medical outcome. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply Right. I think about all those follow-up studies done after surgery with their high outcomes of “satisfaction.” And I’ll bet you $100 this guy is one who would have said he’s satisfied. And yet at what point do we read between the lines (and really, so many of the lines themselves) and say, this is called *denial* because buyer’s remorse is just too hard to face here. He doesn’t have sex, he’s not even sure it’s ok to have sex, he’s in pain, he gets infections, he doesn’t like the way it looks, and on and on, but one little “I love my vagina” and we’re supposed to dismiss all the rest. LikeLiked by 3 people Having an orifice that leaks bodily fluids, must be constantly disinfected, and is only held in place by scar tissue, doesn’t work very well with porn fantasies. The whole thing is such a mess. I really cannot consider these sorts of surgeries ethical, as the outcomes are so often grim, but at the same time I certainly don’t want people being able to “change gender” and thusly invite themselves into the personal quarters of the opposite sex without any medical intervention at all. But it all has so much support. Why don’t more people see this as a mental disturbance? Is craziness just how we live now? LikeLiked by 1 person Outcomes in terms of suicide are also very similar. Trans people self-report a great deal of “satisfaction” post-transition, but their suicide rate increases. What other mental health medications and procedures are considered successful when the patients ultimately commit suicide? I’m far more interested in seeing these “satisfaction” reports parsed out. In terms of the neovagina, ask how often it bleeds. Ask whether it causes the patient pain. Does the pain occur from penetration or does it hurt when the patient is just lying in bed? Ask about infections, smell, and hair growth. When you have a group of respondents hellbent on not addressing any misgivings, you can’t go by overall satisfaction. And, in terms of whether transitioning is “necessary health care”, personal satisfaction cannot be the measure, period. I can guarantee that most cancer patients are not satisfied with their treatment. They may be grateful to be alive, but they’re all too familiar with the pain of treatment and how long the road to recovery is. The only metric that matters is how long they’re cancer free post-treatment. For trans people, the only metric that should matter is how mentally stable they are post-transition. To hell with “satisfaction”. LikeLiked by 3 people That’s very good, thank you. You can’t define the desired outcome if you can’t define the disorder, and the push is to make transgenderism a sort of chimera of a disorder. Not exactly developmental, because such is not treated with drugs and surgery, but not quite psychological, because then it would be seen as delusion. Physical treatment is seen as necessary but in need of improvement. I guess that could apply to cancer, too, where the ideal end result would be a cure. With transgenderism, the ideal end result is a true transformation, not a mimicry of one. But meanwhile, bad treatment is seen as better than no treatment at all. LikeLiked by 1 person Any human being should pause and think before cutting off perfectly healthy flesh. LikeLiked by 4 people Reply Depressing. LikeLike Reply And this is what they want to do to children? I am sorry for the delusional adults, but I am furious that the transmedical complex is pushing hormones and surgery for children. LikeLike Reply It’s hard at the center, perhaps growing hair on the inside, hurts when standing up, sometimes a (after years) still bleeds, keeps getting tighter and harder, what occasionally makes it feel lubricated is a mystery – but most of all, it has not, in all the years since it was surgically created, been used for sex. This is the “vagina” that the author claims multiple times within this essay to “love”. They cherry on top is the claimed wish to discuss such matters with “authenticity” , “….in a way that leads us to understand our bodies, our surgeries, our desires and our options and limitations in regards to sex.” (When did authentic go from meaning *authentic* to meaning ” a particular set of feelz that I really really want other people to treat with the respect with which nuclear scientists handle fissionable materials”?) To say that this surgically-inflicted disaster is something this person “loves” shows a depth of delusion that is both frightening and instructive for anyone who lives a reality-based life and has occasion to cross paths with people who think that reality should be subordinated to their wishes (hint: reality doesn’t capitulate) LikeLiked by 2 people Reply What a fucking idiot. & the bit about going out & buying handbags. I mean … get real, already. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply “Our vaginas are different, unexplored, created, surgical, magical, mysterious and too often untouched by outsiders” Such a male way of thinking about it. LikeLiked by 2 people Reply “Look at me they” they say “I’m a beautiful pussy fuck me.” “I went to see my surgeon and they are going to stretch me open and have a look. I feel like an old cow, I mean bovine, being checked for calf.” I mean really, real women don’t say things like this. If anyone needed proof that feminists were right and these men see vaginas as just holes for f*cking, this is it. LikeLiked by 3 people Reply Does it start with surgeons? Are surgeons the (authoritative/powerful) ones calling mutilated penises “vaginas”? That should stop, speaking of authenticity. This person had a fetish; the medics community indulged it; their quality of life has been reduced. To me, this looks like punishment. LikeLike Reply This is beyond sad. 😦 LikeLike Reply This is why I insist on correcting publications that refer to women’s vulvas as “vaginas.” A “vagina” can be constructed. Agreeing to call your genitals your “vagina” puts trans women on equal footing with natal women by common agreement and by definition. These holes they are carving out of men, holes that have to be maintained by stuffing dilators into them on a regular basis, holes that stiffen up, grow hair, smell foul bleed and eventually close up are not “vaginas.” They are self-inflicted wounds. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Based on my own experience and after talking to other post-ops, I believe the article author’s case to be pretty atypical although results always depend on numerous factors including skill of the surgeon, recovery (acceptance of skin grafts, return of proper blood flow, etc), and proper aftercare especially during the first year. To clear up some of the misinformation I’m reading here, neo-vaginas do not require constant dilating once the surgery site has fully healed (about nine to twelve months post-op). After the first year, dilating is primarily done in order to keep the penal muscle used to line the vaginal canal from becoming atrophy. After 1.5 years, its actually pretty common for transsexual’s to go quite some time without dilating and suffer no ill effects. Also, the surgery area will never “close up” once it has fully healed. In all honesty, I can’t even see how that is possible. We are talking about extremely complex re-configuring of anatomy, not simply poking a hole in flesh as is often described. Some post-op transsexuals do have hair follicles within the surgery area, but this is mostly due to pre-surgery neglect, despite warnings from surgeons (there is a prevailing belief that during the surgery, hair follicles can magically all be killed off, which is unrealistic with the way hair follicle growth occurs). If the surgery area is not cleared pre-operation (usually taking a year due to hair follicle growth cycles), then whatever is left is probably going to keep producing hair. If there is a unexpected odor, I suspect it comes from an infection. Mine tends to smell like a mixture of urine and sweat *shrug*, very similar to my wife. I know several post-op women who have had long-term complications from the surgery, but these were based on a mixture of poor after-care and recovery complications (excess granulation, necrosis of skin grafts, infections, and tearing from too much activity too soon). I did not leave the recovery bed for two weeks, while I’ve heard some post-op transsexuals are up on their feet in less than one. I cannot see how that would be good for an area being crushed between one’s thighs. I also suspect the blood the author describes is due to similar, poor aftercare, improper healing, or an infection. LikeLike Reply “To clear up some of the misinformation I’m reading here…” There is no “misinformation” here. These are things that happened to a person. I didn’t make it up nor did I make any statements as to the applicability of this person’s case to anyone else’s. However your assertions about post-op results contradict a massive amount of information out there on the topic; perhaps you got lucky. In particular, most SRS surgeons’ own sites reiterate the need to dilate for life (or at least as long as penetrative sex is desired) and speak of a great risk of “losing depth” (perhaps you see that as different than “closing up”) without constant diligence. I’d link some examples, but I’m busy with classwork at the moment, and you if you google it you’ll fall over a massive pile of them, mostly by recipients of SRS and surgeons. Maybe it would make a good future post. LikeLiked by 1 person Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here... Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Email (required) (Address never made public) Name (required) Website You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Twitter account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Facebook account. ( Log Out / Change ) You are commenting using your Google+ account. ( Log Out / Change ) Cancel Connecting to %s Notify me of new comments via email. Notify me of new posts via email.